43 Lessons I've Learned About Life, Love, and Leadership

Each year of life can be a portal, an initiation, a deeper unfolding of who we are meant to be. As I celebrate 43 years of this wild, beautiful, and cosmic adventure, I want to share 43 lessons that have shaped me. Some lessons have gentle whispers, others forged in fire. All have brought me closer to truth.

Each year of life can be a portal, an initiation, a deeper unfolding of who we are meant to be.

– Bonnie Hazen
  1. Love is the most powerful frequency. Lead with it, always.
  2. Perfection is an illusion. Choose greatness instead.
  3. Boundaries are sacred. They honor your energy and keep your spirit whole.
  4. There is wisdom in stillness. Learn to sit in silence without needing to fill it.
  5. Your body is a divine instrument. Treat it like the sacred temple it is.
  6. Trust your intuition. It can be your greatest guide.
  7. Failure and rejection are redirections. A closed door means there’s a better one waiting.
  8. Masculine and feminine energies must create together. Structure and flow, logic and intuition—both are needed.
  9. Forgiveness sets you free. Not for them, but for you.
  10. Grief and love are two sides of the same coin. Honor them both.
  11. Every person you meet is a mirror. What triggers you is revealing what needs healing.
  12. Motherhood is the privilege of a lifetime. Being Preston’s mother is my greatest honor, and he is my greatest teacher.
  13. You can’t outthink your healing. You have to feel it to heal it.
  14. Miracles and Magic are real. They live in synchronicities, deep trust, and the unseen realms.
  15. Leadership doesn’t clip wings—it helps others soar. The best leaders develop people with the intention for them to fly even higher.
  16. The only constant is change. Learn to celebrate and play with it.
  17. Luck rewards boldness. Leap, and the net will appear.
  18. Your worth is not tied to productivity. Self-regulation is revolutionary.
  19. Your breath is medicine. Deep inhales, deep exhales—instant recalibration.
  20. Some relationships are seasonal. Letting go with grace is an act of love (for you and for them).
  21. Legacy isn’t about what you leave behind—it’s about how you live today. Your presence, choices, and creations define your impact.
  22. You are here for a reason. Your unique gifts matter. Your purpose matters.
  23. All relationships have something to offer. People come into your life to activate, teach, or transform you.
  24. Your journey is sacred. Every twist, every turn—it’s all part of the design.
  25. Create your joy. Happiness isn’t something you find—it’s something you create.
  26. Resilience isn’t about bouncing back—it’s about becoming. Hard times shape you into the person you were meant to be.
  27. Turn off the TV. Stop watching scripted lives and start creating your own extraordinary story.
  28. You are what you think and speak. Your words and thoughts shape your reality—choose them wisely.
  29. Embrace lifelong learning. Growth never stops; stay curious and open.
  30. Love loudly. Let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. 
  31. Shop with integrity. Support small businesses, families, and local artisans—invest in entrepreneurs, not convenience.
  32. Believe in yourself. Never forget how powerful and capable you truly are.
  33. Your presence can be more powerful than your words. Energy often speaks louder than language.
  34. Be present. Especially when you’re with your loved ones—time is the one thing you can never get back.
  35. New pains can identify old wounds. When you heal the past, you empower your future. 
  36. The best leaders are the most self-aware. Know your shadows, and allow them to fuel your light.
  37. Vulnerability is courageous. Your vulnerability could be someone’s material for liberation.
  38. Your authenticity is magnetic. The world needs your unique and beautiful soul. 
  39. Play is the way. Laughter, movement, and creativity keep your vibration high and your soul alive.
  40. Your tribe is your vibe. Find your people—the ones who care deeply, encourage your growth, and love your authenticity.
  41. ART = Authenticity, Relationships, Trust. These three elements are the foundation of a harmonious life.
  42. Your voice matters; use it. Speak your truth, even if it shakes.
  43. And finally… The best is yet to come. Always.

Life is not a destination but an unfolding, an ever-expanding dance between who we are and who we are becoming.

– Bonnie Hazen

As I step into this next chapter, I do so with deep gratitude—for the lessons, the love, the challenges, and the infinite possibilities ahead. Life is not a destination but an unfolding, an ever-expanding dance between who we are and who we are becoming.

If these 43 lessons have taught me anything, it’s that we are the artists of our own lives, the architects of our own evolution. So, here’s to the next adventure—to more love, more growth, more magic. The best is yet to come. Always.

With cosmic love,

Bonnie

We are the artists of our own lives and the architects of our own evolution.

– Bonnie Hazen